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Preeti Vohra published in Articles, Blogs

The Hidden Power of Understanding Child Psychology During Exams

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” — Pablo Picasso.

This quote beautifully encapsulates the fragile yet resilient nature of children. During exams, their minds become a battlefield of emotions, self-doubt, and expectations. As parents, understanding their psychology can transform this stressful period into an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Exams are not just about testing knowledge; they are also a test of emotional resilience.

For children, the pressure to perform often stems from their innate desire to please their parents and meet societal expectations. This burden, if not managed carefully, can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem, and burnout.

Understanding how your child thinks and feels during this time is crucial to providing the right support.

Child psychology teaches us that a child’s belief in their own abilities is a cornerstone of their performance. When children feel supported and believed in, they are more likely to approach exams with confidence. As a parent, your words and actions have the power to either build their self-belief or diminish it.

Avoid statements like, “Why can’t you study like your sibling?” or “You’ll never get good grades with this attitude.” Instead, focus on affirmations such as, “I see that you are putting up your best efforts and that’s important,” or “You’re capable of overcoming any challenge.” These positive reinforcements can rewire their mindset for success.

Research in child psychology highlights that stress activates the fight-or-flight response, even in children. This can lead to memory lapses, difficulty concentrating, and even physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches. It’s vital to teach your child that stress is not the enemy. Stress, when managed, is a natural motivator. Share this perspective with them: “Stress is your mind’s way of telling you that this moment matters. Let’s work together to channel it into focus.”

One powerful tool from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is visualization technique. 

  • Encourage your child to close their eyes and picture themselves walking into the exam hall, calm and confident.
  • Ask them to imagine writing their answers effortlessly and seeing their name on a results sheet with excellent grades.

This mental rehearsal can help reduce anxiety and instill a sense of preparedness.

Another technique is anchoring, borrowed from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

  • Help your child create a physical anchor for calmness, such as pressing their thumb and forefinger together while thinking of a serene moment.
  • Practicing this regularly can make it a quick go-to during moments of panic.

Resilience Through Communication

Open communication works wonders in understanding your child’s emotional state. Instead of asking, “How much have you studied?” try asking, “How are you feeling about your preparation? Do you need any help?” This small shift encourages them to open up about their fears and concerns. Listening without judgment creates a safe space where they feel valued and understood.

Support Without Pressure

Parents often unknowingly cross the line between supporting their child and pressuring them. It’s essential to remember that every child’s journey is unique. Celebrate their efforts, not just their results. Acknowledge their hard work, regardless of the outcome, and remind them that exams are just one chapter in a much larger story.

As parents, we hold the key to shaping our children’s relationship with exams—and with themselves. Instead of focusing solely on grades, focus on their growth. Teach them that target is learning, not certain % and getting lesser marks is not a failure, let it be an experience and nothing more . Remind them that their worth is not defined by a report card.

In the words of Carl Jung, “Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk.” Be the calm, confident presence they need during this challenging time. Equip them with the tools to manage stress, and watch as they not only succeed in exams but also in life.

Understanding your child’s psychology during exams is not just about helping them pass a test; it’s about equipping them with lifelong skills of confidence, self-worth,s elf-belief. Let’s turn exam season into a time of empowerment and growth, for both you and your child.
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ArwaAbbas Sunelwala published in Blogs

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*5 Tips to boost your Child’s Academic Success and Motivation*

In today’s time of Mobile games, *“Cheat Codes & Bonuses”* are special combinations that let the Players skip Levels, get hidden Powers and even Win the Game instantly.

As Parents use these *5 Tips as “Cheat Codes& Bonuses”* for guiding your Child through Academic Challenges.

1. Praise your Child’s effort, not just their Results. This will help them to believe that they can improve their abilities through hard work.

2. Show your Child that it’s “OK” to make Mistakes and that failure is a natural part of the learning process.

3. Encourage your Child to view their Studies as a Chance to Grow, not something to dread or avoid.

4. Create a Disciplined Approach with Boundaries for Play, Leisure and other Activities.

5. Celebrate your Child’s Success, whether Big and Small.

Trust this helps you to Spread the Smiles.

By.ArwaAbbas sunelwala.

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Dr. Meena LM published in Blogs

Parenting: The Ultimate Course in Love, Chaos, and Survival…

Parenting is a job with no training manual, no vacation days. The most rewarding unpaid gig you will ever take on and possibly the most exhausting. If you’re looking for guidance, a chuckle, or just reassurance that you’re not alone in this whirlwind.

All in One Role
Parenting is a unique combination of teacher, nurse, chef, counselor, and detective. Your reward is a sticky kiss, a heartfelt “I love you,” and the profound realization that you would do it all over again

Unconditional Love and Patience
There’s nothing like parenting to test your patience. Kids will test your limits in ways you never imagined. One minute, they’re angelically napping, and the next, they’re finger-painting the walls.
But through all the tantrums and messes, there’s an unshakable love that makes it all worthwhile.

The Art of Negotiation
If you’ve ever tried to convince a toddler to eat vegetables, congratulations, you’re qualified for negotiations. Parenting is an endless series of bargains if you eat three more bites, you can have dessert. So, stay calm, stay firm, and occasionally let them win.

Sleep is a Myth
Before kids, you thought pulling an all-nighter was tough. Post-kids, you’ll master the art of functioning on sheer willpower. Babies cry at night, toddlers climb into your bed, and teenagers sneak out. Embrace naps whenever possible.

Embrace the Ride
Parenting is a roller coaster. It’s messy, exhausting, and unpredictable, but it’s also filled with laughter, love, and moments that make your heart swell.

So, if you’re a new parent drowning in parenting drama, remember: You’re doing great. Now, go hug your little chaos-makers and remind yourself you are doing great as a parent.

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Sharmeely Sharma published in Blogs

Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective

Nurturing Emotional Intelligence in Children: A Parenting Perspective

 

As parents, we often focus on academic success, extracurricular achievements, and setting our children up for a bright future. But what about emotional intelligence (EQ)? This vital skill allows children to navigate relationships, understand their feelings, and show empathy toward others. Developing EQ in kids isn’t just a parenting goal—it’s a gift that stays with them for life.  

 

One moment that warmed my heart and reminded me of the importance of teaching empathy happened when my son was in grade three. At the time, he was an energetic boy who loved games and teamwork. One day, he came home and shared a story that left me in awe of his kindness.  

 

During recess, he noticed one of his classmates sitting alone. This boy had been bullied and was left out of the games the other kids were playing. My son observed the situation and, instead of simply walking away or feeling helpless, he decided to act. He walked up to his classmate, struck up a conversation, and then invited him to join his team.  

 

Later, he told me, “Mom, he wasn’t smiling at first, but when we started playing, he was laughing and having so much fun!”  

 

That simple yet profound moment taught me that children are capable of immense kindness when guided to recognize and respond to others’ emotions. It also reminded me of the importance of modeling emotional intelligence at home.  

 

 Building Blocks of Emotional Intelligence

 

So, how can we, as parents, nurture emotional intelligence in our kids? It’s not something we can teach in a single conversation. Instead, it’s woven into everyday interactions, modeled behavior, and intentional teaching moments.  

 

Here are some strategies that have worked for me:  

 1. Model Empathy

Children learn by observing. If they see us acknowledging others’ feelings and responding with compassion, they’re likely to mirror those actions. For example, whenever my kids express frustration or sadness, I make it a point to listen attentively and validate their feelings. This simple act shows them that emotions matter and deserve attention.  

 

 2. Encourage Open Communication

In our home, we have a “talk-it-out” rule. Whether it’s about a bad day at school or a disagreement with a sibling, we encourage our kids to share their feelings without fear of judgment. This practice helps them articulate emotions and understand their own needs.  

 

 3. Teach Conflict Resolution

Siblings often argue—it’s a universal truth of parenting. But these moments can become opportunities to teach problem-solving and empathy. Once, my younger son was upset because his brother took a toy he was playing with. Instead of stepping in to solve it for them, I guided them through a conversation about sharing and fairness. By allowing them to voice their perspectives and work toward a solution, they learned to understand each other better.  

 

#### 4. **Celebrate Acts of Kindness**  

When my son stood up for his classmate, I made sure to acknowledge his empathy and courage. Positive reinforcement can go a long way in encouraging similar behavior. Whether it’s helping a friend, comforting a sibling, or showing gratitude, celebrating these moments reinforces their importance.  

 

5. Foster a Growth Mindset Around Emotions

Children need to know that all emotions are valid—even the uncomfortable ones. By teaching them that it’s okay to feel angry, sad, or scared, we help them develop a healthy relationship with their emotions. For example, when my kids experience disappointment, I encourage them to name their feelings and brainstorm ways to cope or move forward.  

 

The Ripple Effect of Emotional Intelligence  

 

The impact of teaching emotional intelligence goes beyond the immediate family. When children learn to empathize and connect, they create ripples of positivity in their communities. My son’s act of kindness not only uplifted his friend but also inspired his classmates to be more inclusive.  

 

As a parenting coach and teen psychologist, I’ve seen firsthand how developing EQ in childhood lays the foundation for healthier relationships and better mental health in the teenage years. Kids with high emotional intelligence are better equipped to handle stress, navigate peer relationships, and build self-confidence.  

 

 A Call to Parents  

 

Every child has the potential to be a beacon of empathy and understanding. Our role as parents is to nurture these qualities by creating a home environment that values emotional connection.  

 

Let’s remember that it’s often the little moments—a kind word, a comforting hug, or standing up for someone in need—that shape our children’s character.  

 

So, the next time you see your child offer a helping hand or share a smile with someone who needs it, take a moment to celebrate. Because in raising emotionally intelligent kids, we’re not just building better individuals—we’re creating a kinder, more compassionate world.  

 

After all, isn’t that the legacy we all want to leave behind?  

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Salma Rashiyani published in Blogs

Children As Mirror : The Reflections We Can’t Ignore

 

Have you ever looked at your child and wondered, Where did they learn that from? The way they speak, handle frustration, or even express joy—so much of it feels eerily familiar, like watching a mini version of yourself. It’s because, in many ways, they are reflections of us. A child is like a mirror, absorbing everything we say and do and reflecting it back to the world in their own unique way.

It’s easy to forget just how deeply connected our children are to us. In the rush of daily life—school runs, homework, chores—it can be hard to stop and recognize the impact our behaviour has on them. But the truth is, our children are constantly learning from us, not just from what we tell them, but from how we live.

Think back to a time when you felt overwhelmed and found yourself snapping at your child for something small. Maybe you were running late, stressed, or simply exhausted. Later, you see your child mimic the same frustration—perhaps with a sibling or a toy. In that moment, it’s easy to feel guilty, like you’ve passed on a negative trait. But rather than being hard on yourself, what if you saw it as a moment of reflection, a gentle reminder that we’re all human and learning together!

Children don’t just reflect our flaws, though. They also mirror our love, our patience, and our kindness. Have you ever watched your child comfort a friend who’s upset or share something without being asked? That’s you shining through. Every act of kindness they show is a testament to the love and guidance you provide, even on the days you feel like you’re falling short.

It’s important to remember that parenting is not about being perfect. It’s about being present and aware. Our children will have their moments of frustration, just as we do. But instead of seeing those moments as failures, we can use them as opportunities to grow—both as parents and as individuals. When your child reflects back your impatience, it’s a chance to take a breath and ask yourself, How can I do better next time? And when they reflect back your joy, it’s a reminder that the love you give is being deeply absorbed.

Parenting is a journey of constant self-discovery. Our children hold up a mirror not just to our actions, but to our inner selves. They show us the parts of ourselves that need healing and the parts that are already strong. This can feel overwhelming at times, especially when we see our own struggles mirrored in their behaviour. But it’s also incredibly powerful because it gives us the chance to model growth, resilience, and self-compassion.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that every moment with your child is an opportunity to shape not only their future but also your own. Children are resilient and forgiving; they don’t need us to be perfect, they need us to be real. They need to see that it’s okay to make mistakes, to apologize, and to keep trying. When we show them that, they learn to do the same.

So, the next time your child reflects something back to you, whether it’s their laughter or their tears, take a moment to see the connection. Understand that in raising them, we are also raising ourselves. We’re growing, learning, and becoming better versions of who we are. And through it all, we’re building a bond that is rooted not in perfection, but in love, understanding, and endless possibilities.

Parenting is hard, but it’s also the most rewarding journey we’ll ever embark on. Our children, like mirrors, show us not just where we’ve been, but where we have the potential to go. Let’s embrace that reflection, with all its beauty and imperfections, and continue growing together. Let’s learn and grow together.

– Perfectly Placed Pursuits

 Dr. Salma Rashiyani.

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Sayed Israr Ali Ishaque published in Blogs

Why Young Boys Like Cars

Hi,

In today’s fast-paced world, many children are hyperactive for various reasons. Young boys, especially by the age of 9 or 10, tend to be physically active, filled with energy, and in a crucial stage of brain and body development. While hyperactivity is common, it does not necessarily indicate conditions like ADHD.

One factor worth considering is the limited time kids see their parents reading books. Many parents, especially in South Asian (or “Desi”) communities, are often on their phones. Children naturally mimic what they observe, so they frequently pick up or ask for phones, influenced by what they see at home.

Recently, a parent asked me happywhy young boys are so drawn to cars. I believe this attraction has to do with their high energy levels and the challenge they feel when playing games. Many children today spend time on racing games, which foster a competitive, win-at-all-costs mindset. This may fuel their fascination with cars, speed, and competition.

Additionally, kids may lack exposure to calming activities, as many haven’t observed their parents engaging in practices like meditation, prayer, or yoga. Without these examples of relaxation, children may lean toward high-energy activities instead. Ultimately, their interest in different car models and the thrill of racing is a reflection of both their environment and their developmental stage.

#Happyparenting #Healthyparenting

Israr Sayed

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Dr. Yogita Sharma published in Blogs

6 principals of Appreciation

  1.                          The Power of Appreciation 

                             Series: Courage to Encourage

Appreciation is one of the simplest yet most profound gestures we can extend to others. In a world that often focuses on criticism and pointing out flaws, acknowledging someone’s efforts and achievements can be a game-changer. Whether in parenting, professional environments, or personal relationships, the power of appreciation has a ripple effect, creating positive energy that transcends boundaries.

 

 

 

 

The Transformative Impact of Appreciation

Appreciation does more than lift someone’s spirits—it transforms the environment. When people feel appreciated, they are more motivated, confident, and likely to continue contributing positively. This is true for children and adults alike. Whether you’re a parent encouraging your child, a manager uplifting your team, or a friend offering support, appreciation can turn the ordinary into extraordinary.

Yet, it takes courage to appreciate. It involves looking beyond outcomes and seeing the efforts, progress, and small victories others might miss. But this courage to encourage is a skill worth cultivating for anyone looking to bring out the best in those around them.

 

 

How to Appreciate Effectively

As part of the *Courage to Encourage* video series, I explored ways to make appreciation impactful. Here are some key insights on appreciating others thoughtfully:

 1. Be Specific When Praising

Generic praise, while well-intentioned, often falls flat. Telling someone, “Good job” is nice, but it lacks the depth needed to make them feel truly seen. Being specific in your appreciation makes all the difference. For example, instead of saying, “You did great,” say, “I really admire how you stayed focused during that tough situation and found a creative solution.” Specific praise shows that you’re paying attention and value your effort.

 

 

 

 2. Praise the Effort and Progress, Not Just the End Result

Focusing on the journey rather than just the destination is crucial. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that efforts are worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments rather than as excuses to give up. Whether someone has succeeded or not, respecting their journey fosters resilience and a growth mentality. A parent might tell their child, for example, “I noticed how much time you spent practicing for the exam, and that dedication is something to be proud of.” This method teaches that hard work is worthwhile and that failures can serve as teaching moments instead of

 

 

 

3. Separate Praise from Correction

Balancing praise and constructive feedback is essential but must be done mindfully. Offering appreciation and correction simultaneously can dilute both messages. If you’ve praised someone and immediately followed up with a suggestion for improvement, the positive message may get lost. Instead, praise and correction should occur at different times to allow both to be internalized. This approach creates a space where people can absorb the appreciation and understand the feedback without feeling diminished.

The Courage to Encourage: Why It Matters

Appreciation is a powerful tool, but it also requires vulnerability. It takes courage to express genuine gratitude and recognize another’s efforts, especially when it’s easier to point out flaws or criticize. But when you choose encouragement over critique, you open doors to trust, collaboration, and mutual growth.

In leadership, whether in the home or workplace, those who encourage others foster environments of safety and creativity. People thrive when they feel supported and valued, and that emotional fuel drives innovation, performance, and well-being.

The Ripple Effect of Appreciation

 

 

 

The power of appreciation doesn’t stop at the individual—it has a ripple effect that extends far beyond. When you appreciate someone, they’re more likely to pass that positivity on to others. Think of it as planting a seed of goodwill; once nurtured, it grows and spreads into something far greater than the initial gesture.

Children who grow up in homes where appreciation is practiced regularly tend to have healthier self-esteem and are more empathetic toward others. Employees in workplaces where appreciation is part of the culture are more engaged and invested in the company’s success.

 Conclusion

In a fast-paced world where achievements often overshadow efforts, taking the time to appreciate others can seem like a small act, but it carries immense power. It’s a tool for transformation, not only in others but also in ourselves. When we dare to encourage, we create a culture of support, growth, and positivity, which benefits everyone involved.

So, take a moment today to express genuine appreciation—be specific, acknowledge the effort, and let the praise stand on its own. You never know how far a little encouragement can go.

This blog reflects the core principles from the *Courage to Encourage* series, reminding us of the incredible impact appreciation can have on our lives and the lives of others. Keep encouraging and watch the magic unfold!

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Dr. Susmita Kumari rout published in Articles, Blogs, Community, Inspiration, News,

The Art of Connection: Mastering the Six Principles of Appreciation in Parenting

In our busy lives, fostering a deep connection with our children can sometimes feel like an uphill battle. Yet, the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship lies in effective communication and genuine appreciation. By mastering the art of connection through the principles of appreciation, you can nurture your child’s self-esteem, resilience, and emotional intelligence. Here are six key principles to help you build this vital connection.

1. Be Specific When Praising

Vague compliments can feel hollow to children. Instead of a simple “Good job!” be specific about what you appreciate. This clarity helps children understand exactly what behavior to repeat. For example, say, “I love how you worked so hard on your art project; your attention to detail is impressive!” This not only boosts their confidence but also reinforces positive behaviors.

Why It Matters:
Specific praise helps children recognize their strengths and understand what they did well, encouraging them to continue those behaviors in the future.

2. Praise the Efforts and Progress, Not Just the Results

Children are often result-oriented, but it’s crucial to celebrate the journey. When you acknowledge their effort and progress—regardless of the outcome—you instill a growth mindset. For instance, if your child didn’t ace a test but studied hard, say, “I’m really proud of the effort you put into studying. That’s what matters!”

Why It Matters:
This principle helps children understand that learning and improvement are ongoing processes, reducing the fear of failure and promoting resilience.

3. Praise and Correction Should Be Separated

Timing is everything. When you need to correct a behavior, do it at a different time than when you give praise. For example, if your child misbehaves, address it calmly when emotions have settled. Praise can then be given at moments that showcase positive behavior. This separation helps children absorb both the praise and the correction without feeling overwhelmed.

Why It Matters:
This approach fosters a safe emotional space, allowing children to appreciate your praise without conflating it with criticism.

4. Praise Must Be Genuine and Sincere

Children are perceptive; they can tell when praise is insincere. Always be authentic in your compliments. If you’re struggling to find something positive to say, it’s okay to acknowledge that they tried their best, even if the outcome wasn’t ideal. For example, “I appreciate how you put in the effort to try something new, even if it was challenging.”

Why It Matters:
Genuine praise builds trust and strengthens your bond, showing your child that you truly see and value their efforts.

5. Praise in Public, Correct in Private

Public acknowledgment can boost a child’s confidence significantly. Whether at family gatherings, school events, or playdates, take moments to highlight their achievements. Conversely, when corrections are necessary, address them in private. This ensures your child feels supported rather than embarrassed, maintaining their dignity.

Why It Matters:
This balance not only nurtures their self-esteem but also fosters a sense of security, knowing that they have your unconditional support.

6. Accent the Positive

In every situation, try to highlight the positives. When faced with challenges, encourage your child to focus on what went well and what they learned, rather than dwelling on mistakes. For example, if they strike out in a game, remind them of their great teamwork or how they improved from last week.

Why It Matters:
Focusing on the positives encourages resilience, allowing children to navigate setbacks with a constructive attitude.

Conclusion

Mastering the art of connection through these six principles of appreciation can profoundly impact your relationship with your children. By being specific, celebrating effort, timing your praise and corrections wisely, being genuine, recognizing them publicly, and accentuating the positives, you cultivate an environment of love and understanding. Remember, the goal is to build a strong connection that nurtures your child’s growth and self-worth. Start practicing these principles today, and watch as your relationship flourishes, creating lasting bonds that will carry them through life.Continue reading

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Sunny Nagpal published in Blogs

Transform Your Parenting in 7 Days: The Proven Power of ACE

Have you ever felt like your efforts as a parent go unnoticed? That the endless sacrifices, sleepless nights, and heartfelt moments just don’t seem to resonate with your child? What if I told you that a simple shift—rooted in the power of appreciation—could transform your family dynamic and create a home filled with love, respect, and connection? 🌾

The Power of Appreciation: A Time-Honored Secret Passed Through Generations

In every home, there’s something magical that happens during family gatherings, meal times, or quiet moments—it’s the silent appreciation that ties us together. But have you ever wondered how powerful this appreciation could truly be when made intentional?

As parents, we often get caught up in the hustle of doing for our families—managing the household, working, worrying—that we forget to express our appreciation out loud. This small but impactful shift can be the key to unlocking deeper connections.

The ACE Framework: A Simple Parenting Shift

Introducing the ACE framework: Appreciation, Courage, Encouragement. A simple, easy-to-remember acronym designed to help you nurture your child with intention, using values that have stood the test of time.

1. Appreciation (A)

It starts with appreciation. Every parent loves their child, but how often do we express that love in words?

  • When was the last time you said to your child, “I really appreciate how you helped with the chores today”?
  • Or told your spouse, “You’re doing such an amazing job balancing everything”?

In many homes, appreciation often comes in the form of actions—preparing meals with love, doing laundry, or tidying up. But, spoken appreciation can reach the heart faster. Imagine how it feels for your child or partner to hear those words and know they are seen.

Example: Moms

Picture a mother lovingly preparing snacks for her child after a long school day. Now, imagine if she paired it with, “I’m so proud of how hard you worked today. I really appreciate you.” 💖 The impact of words, along with actions, can create a profound bond.

2. Courage (C)

Next comes courage—the courage to step out of our comfort zones as parents and guide our children through their own challenges. Parents often avoid discussing difficult topics, be it emotions, fears, or failures. But true courage lies in creating a safe space for our children to express themselves without fear of judgment.

Example: Dads

Many fathers are raised in environments where emotions aren’t often discussed. But imagine a dad sitting with his teenage daughter, telling her, “It’s okay to feel lost sometimes. I felt that way too when I was your age, but I’m here to guide you.”
Feel how this builds emotional trust. Visualize how this courage will help your child open up and face the world with resilience.

3. Encouragement (E)

Finally, we have encouragement. How often do we actively cheer our children on? Beyond academic or extracurricular success, it’s about encouraging effort and the small wins in life.

  • When your child struggles with math but tries again, say, “I love how you didn’t give up—keep going!”
  • When your child fails an exam, remind them, “This is just a stepping stone; let’s work on it together.”

Encouragement creates a growth mindset that allows children to believe in their abilities beyond external validation.

Example: Education and Encouragement

In many households, academic success is highly prioritized. But true success lies in nurturing the journey. Imagine telling your child, “I’m proud of the effort you’re putting in, no matter the result. You’ve already won by showing up!” 🙌 The courage to encourage effort over outcomes is the key to raising confident, happy children.

The Challenge: Bring ACE to Your Home Today

Here’s your challenge, as a parent: Bring ACE into your home for just one week. Consciously appreciate, show courage in difficult conversations, and encourage your child through small moments.

Ask yourself:

  • What can I appreciate about my child right now?
  • How can I create a safe space for them to talk about their fears and dreams?
  • What small efforts have they made today that deserve my encouragement?

How my changed?

When I first started using the ACE framework with my own family, I’ll admit, it felt awkward. As parents, we’re used to doing more than saying. But the results were incredible. My children confidence grew, my spouse and I connected on a deeper level, and our home became more harmonious. Just imagine what this shift could do for you. 🏡

Urgent Action Needed – Let’s Transform Together

The truth is, we have the power to shape our children’s future with these simple steps. The clock is ticking, and the time to act is now. Start today by embracing the ACE framework—Appreciation, Courage, and Encouragement.

Want to learn more? Let us connect to implement ACE in your home today! Let’s raise the next generation of confident, courageous, and compassionate leaders. đŸŒ±

💡 Tag a parent or share this post with someone who needs to hear this. Let’s empower families to thrive together! 🙌

#ParentingWithPurpose #ACEParenting #CourageToEncourage #PowerOfAppreciation #NurturingTheNextGeneration

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Anupama Mohla published in Blogs

Strengths Over Shortcomings: A New Approach to Parenting

Parenthood often feels like tending to a garden—our children grow in their own way, sometimes blossoming in directions we didn’t expect, and not always following the structure we try to provide. They seem to operate on their own wavelength, often not aligning with our thought process and guidance. And let’s not even talk about the things they don’t seem to do well! As parents, we experience so many life lessons that we want to pass on. We naturally wish for them to follow a path paved with happiness and success, and it can be tempting to focus on correcting their weaknesses. But is this always the right approach?

Rather than focusing on what is missing in our children, what if we shifted our attention to what they are good at? Instead of seeing their shortcomings, imagine focusing on their strengths and celebrating their natural talents. What if, instead of saying, “You didn’t do well in math,” we said, “I love how creative you are with your art projects” or “I admire how curious you are about the world around you”?

Acknowledging and appreciating their strengths not only builds confidence but also encourages them to pursue the things that make them feel good about themselves. We often mistake their lack of certain skills as a flaw, but could it be that we are overlooking the brilliance they already possess in other areas?

For instance, some children may struggle with keeping their rooms tidy, but perhaps they have an amazing ability to build, create, or imagine. Think of great minds like Einstein or Zuckerberg—both known for their disorganized workspaces. These messes didn’t hold them back from achieving greatness. By focusing on what’s ‘missing,’ we may unintentionally stifle the creativity and individuality that could lead to remarkable accomplishments.

It’s time we ask ourselves: Are our expectations shaped by our own desires, or are we truly seeing the unique abilities our children have? By appreciating their strengths, we can help them build confidence and resilience. This doesn’t mean we ignore areas where they can improve, but rather, we should create a balance where their self-worth is rooted in their strengths, and their weaknesses are seen as opportunities for growth, not failures.

Parenting is about finding that balance between guidance and freedom. When we shift our focus to appreciating their natural talents, we empower them to take pride in who they are. This approach builds confidence, a growth mindset, and allows them to flourish in ways we might never have imagined. Let’s embrace their individuality, nurture their strengths, and watch them grow into their best selves.

 

 

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Puneet Kaur published in Blogs

Significant Leaps to Appreciation

Over the years, growing up as a child, I carried a belief that you are appreciated and praised in life only when you are successful. Award is given only to winners. Tough competitions and struggles divided my mindset into only two categories- winners and looser. Praise and acknowledgement is served only to the best. The rest land nowhere. Either there is disappointment and loss or there is an applause and award. This ended up to create my fighter ideology.

Unless I performed well, I was never satisfied. Love was unconditionally offered but praise had to be earned not just with efforts and hard work but getting brilliant an outstanding results. Appreciation was conditional. If I do well, I have reward. And if I do bad, I get nothing. The same traditional concept raised me into a college achiever.

My parents endless efforts and sacrifices added to my guilt if I under achieved. But my journey and struggles somewhere remained unnoticed. I was never criticized, punished or ignored. But had to level up to a commendable benchmark which when not achieved restricted my appreciation or celebration. High hopes set on me to walk the achievers platform only brought disappointments and low self-esteem. My college course and professors somewhere brought back the spirit of determination and achievement as the course I studied offered self-exploration and I realized that I had a long way to go. For the first time, I got remarks in my files such as:-“painstaking efforts, praiseworthy thoughts, written with efforts and dedication” instead of just good, very good, excellent or just a signature. For the first time I felt somebody appreciated my hard work and efforts. It greatly motivated me back to become progressive and successful in pursuing my career.

To meet social expectations and fulfill personal needs of recognition, like many kids I put myself through stifle pressure and tireless efforts.

Usually, in the long run children who handle such situations end up killing their spark by giving up on their dreams or exhaust themselves to prove their capacity. Either of which is unhealthy. I chose to over work and devote my energies solely into this race.

Grades, marks were of great value and to get into the best of institutions, one had to crack competitive exam. But somewhere I found relief amidst all this pressure by focusing on doing what I enjoyed. But my basic zest of achievement that was ingrained so deeply returned back when I got a child of my own. I never negated or criticized her but internally had expectations from her too. Soon to realize that I do not want her to go through the same thing. I was open to the view due to my exposure and learnings that I have to be her support. She will take her own time to reach her full potential and I will not pressurize her for those outstanding results. I clapped at her every step when she learnt to walk, talk, play and do her tasks but slowly with time when academic pressure came, I forgot to appreciate that her improper circles also need appreciation.

 The fact that the little things that are not perfect also deserve appreciation. Only then they grow better. It’s a basic human need.

In life also, we must have gratitude for every little thing. Power of appreciation gives encouragement, positivity and new hope in times of pain, frustration and anger and allows the person to constantly stay motivated when one has a lost sense of direction.

“It is like a bridge to victory which we fail to acknowledge” or “a rechargeable battery that repowers you” when everything is grey and cloudy.

It shifts our focus to see the good instead of just focusing upon the missing puzzle pieces thereby working more effectively in developing positive behavior and habits. A very positive environment is created and the child cannot get a better space than this to grow. We tend to overlook its advantages in the long run under the belief that it may spoil the child but it truly helps to shape the personality of the child to become progressive, more positive, resilient, more unstoppable and open to new experiences in life. So as rightly said “there are things to say besides just good job” and “praise can transform a prison into a temple”.

-By Puneet Kaur

 

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The Power of Appreciation: It needs Courage to Encourage Your Child

As parents, we strive to nurture our children, guiding them through life’s challenges. But one powerful tool often overlooked in parenting is appreciation. It’s more than just saying “good job” — it’s about recognizing their efforts, nurturing self-esteem, and helping them grow. What’s more, it takes real courage to consistently encourage our kids in a world that tends to focus more on correcting mistakes than celebrating effort.

“Children need models more than they need critics.” – Joseph Joubert

Parenting can be overwhelming, and between juggling work, house chores, and family demands, it’s easy to focus on what isn’t going well. However, shifting to a mindset of appreciation can transform the atmosphere in your home and foster stronger connections with your children.

Why Appreciation Matters

Children, just like adults, thrive on positive reinforcement. When they feel appreciated, they feel valued, which boosts their self-worth and encourages them to continue positive behaviors. They start to internalize the belief that they are capable and worthy — a crucial part of emotional development.

Fun Fact: When you express appreciation to your child, both of you experience a release of dopamine — the “feel-good” brain chemical. It’s an instant boost of positivity!

Encouragement Builds Courage

Appreciation is more than just praising your child when they succeed. It’s about recognizing their effort, especially when things don’t go perfectly. For instance, imagine your child spends hours on a project that doesn’t turn out right. Instead of focusing on the mistakes, say, “I’m proud of how much effort you put into this.” This small shift encourages a growth mindset — the belief that effort is what truly counts.

 “Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.” – Lady Bird Johnson

When we appreciate our kids, we send a powerful message: we believe in them. This belief fosters their own self-confidence. Children who feel appreciated are more likely to take on challenges, knowing their effort will be acknowledged, even when the results aren’t perfect.

Small Acts of Appreciation Matter

It’s not just about recognizing the big milestones — appreciating small, everyday actions is key. Did your child help with chores without being asked? Thank them. Did they show kindness to a friend? Let them know you noticed.

These small moments teach children that their actions matter, that kindness and effort are valued, and that you see them even when life is busy.

Injecting Fun Into Appreciation

Appreciation doesn’t have to be serious all the time! You can make it fun, which might even make it more memorable for your child.

For instance, instead of saying, “Thanks for cleaning your room,” try something like, “Wow, did a magical cleaning fairy visit? Your room looks AMAZING!” Adding humor lightens the mood and reinforces the positive behavior in a playful way.

Similarly, if your child stayed patient during a long day of errands, you could say, “I think you just won the ‘Ultimate Patience Champion’ award!” This adds a lighthearted touch to your appreciation, turning it into a fun moment for both of you.

“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” – Peggy O’Mara

Encouraging a Growth Mindset

One of the greatest gifts you can give your child is the courage to keep trying, even when things are difficult. By appreciating their effort, rather than just their results, you help them develop a growth mindset — a belief that challenges help them grow rather than defining their limitations.

For example, when your child struggles with a task, avoid jumping in to fix it or pointing out the mistakes. Instead, you can say, “I can see you’re working hard. Keep going, you’ll figure it out.” This type of encouragement helps build resilience and perseverance, qualities that are essential for lifelong success.

How to Practice Daily Appreciation

Bringing more appreciation into your daily routine is simple with these steps:

  1. Be specific: Rather than general praise, be clear about what you’re appreciating. For example, “I noticed how focused you were while doing your homework today.”
  2. Catch them doing good: Notice the small positive behaviors, whether it’s helping around the house or being kind to a sibling, and comment on them.
  3. Appreciate effort, not just results: Whether they succeeded or struggled, appreciate the hard work they put in.
  4. Praise and correction at separate times: Don’t mix praise and correction in the same conversation. Let praise stand alone, and save any corrective feedback for another moment.
  5. Praise must be genuine and sincere: Children can sense when praise is forced or exaggerated. Be honest, and let them know that you truly mean what you say.
  6. Praise in public, correct in private: When your child does something commendable, acknowledge it in front of others. But when corrections are needed, keep them private to maintain their dignity.
  7. Accentuate the positive: Focus on what your child is doing right rather than constantly pointing out mistakes. Highlight their strengths and positive actions.
  8. Use humor: Add some fun! Playful comments or silly awards can make appreciation even more special.

 “A child who is appreciated will become an adult who appreciates.” – Unknown

Conclusion: The Ripple Effect of Appreciation

Taking the time to appreciate your child does more than just make them feel good for a moment. You’re teaching them to value themselves, to keep going when things get tough, and to appreciate the effort and kindness in others.

The courage to encourage is a gift that keeps on giving. As you practice appreciation, you’ll see your child’s confidence grow, their willingness to embrace challenges expand, and your relationship strengthen.

So, take a moment today to appreciate your child — for the big things, the small things, and everything in between. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes in their life and yours.

Ms. Sonali Dutta

Parenting Coach

Contact: 76088 89728

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